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How to manage your finances as a couple?

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Today’s post is a guest post by Yasi Zhang from Fast Track, talking about the very important subject of how to manage your finances as a couple. I am very happy to have her as a guest writer today.

Money is a topic most people avoid talking about, so do newlywed couples. It is awkward to discuss money with your partner, but it is an essential exercise to do together as a couple because you are building a financial future together!

Some people have asked me about how to manage finances as a couple, and I find it might be a common struggle for many if you avoid talking about it with your partner.

Without a structure couple finance system, the consequences might be:

Why is a healthy couple finance system important?

I suppose all of you plan to spend the rest of your life with your partner, right? So your financial future is intertwined with each other. If you have planned your retirement and get it all sorted out, but your partner has not. Then when you two retire, maybe your partner has to rely on your financial support.

If you want to buy a house in the near future, but your partner is not in the same boat, you will need double the effort to save for the down payment and purchase a house, or even pay the mortgage. Well, I hope that is not the case.

The mistake my husband and I made in the past is exactly not planning our finances as a couple. We spent what we earned. As long as we were not spending more than what we earned, we were ok with that. Living YOLO was ruining our financial future. You can read more about my story here.

The problem of that is we spent more than what we should, and we were not saving and investing as much as we could. Because none of us had an overview of our finances as a family. After changing from unconscious spending to conscious spending, with a clear couple finance plan, we increased our net worth tremendously after only 8 months’ time. The system is obviously working for us. But not every system worked well.

I have a friend who splits everything with the partner, but they both don’t know each other’s personal finance, so they could not save and invest. Whatever they spend, they split in half, to them, it is cheaper, because one person only needs to pay 50% of the price. As you can imagine, the problems are:

  1. For every item you buy, you need to convince your partner to contribute the 50%
  2. You tend to spend more because you would think everything is half price.

Therefore, as a couple, it is impossible to build a healthy financial future if you don’t align your finances. There will be many situations where you are pulled back financially if you, as a family, do not have a coherent financial plan.

But you can avoid that if you manage your finance as a couple. I will explain 3 couple finance models that I know work well

.What’s Mine is Yours, What’s Yours is Mine

Whatever you earn, you pool the money together. You spend the money as family expenses. You save and invest together as a family. If you plan to increase your net worth, you both are responsible for achieving the goal. Thus, there will not be situations such as the wife bought something, the husband thinks he deserves to buy something as well. It only works when you have a common interest and goal. You can decide how much each of you can receive from the family budget for personal spending. Everything else goes to savings and investing.

I have to say this is particularly a default system in Chinese families. Everything is shared. When you start dividing what is yours and what is mine, that hurts feelings. Families don’t divide things but share.

Contribution by Earning Power

On the contrary to the last system, I was a bit shocked when I first heard of this model. I know it is common in some cultures that people do calculate how much to contribute to a family pool based on their salary level. For example, if the husband earns $5000 per month, the wife earns $6000 per month. Their earning ratio is 5:6.

So the wife pays 20% more than the husband in rent, groceries, furniture, and all household spendings. Similarly, the wife contributes 20% more in savings and investment.

This way, whoever earns more, has more disposable cash and contributes proportionally to the family finance.

One Person Earning Model

It is quite common that one person in the household is earning, and the other person is caring for the home, children, and so on. So the work is distributed. For example, if the wife is a full-time executive working in a company, and the husband is a stay at home dad. He does not have income, but he is helping with the households and taking care of the children. What if he wants to buy something for himself? Where does the money come from?

It will be from the family pocket money.

The income of the partner will be split into different buckets. So you manage it as family money. Maybe 80% goes to family expenses such as rent, groceries, savings, investing, and so on, 20% goes to partner pocket money—10% for each person. So you can buy a surprise gift for your partner, you can buy some books you want to read, you can treat yourself once a while. This way, both partners are playing a role to support the family, and both have an aligned financial goal. You can decide for yourself how much pocket money is suitable. The more you save and invest as a family, the better your financial future will be together.

I am sure other systems work well for couples. Please feel free to share your experiences in the comment section.

Start the Conversation

Have you heard of the three pillars? (not the Swiss pension fund system but for marriage) – Love, Sex, and Money. If you have less than 2, your marriage is unstable. So money plays an important role in supporting a stable marriage.

It won’t surprise me that some couples do not have a couple financial plan. It is crucial to start an open conversation and plan your future together. Start by designing your dream life, then put the pieces together. What are the elements you need to have? How will you achieve those? It might be a house, a comfortable retirement, an annual family trip, and so on. Align your goals together and become a power couple towards your dream life.

Thanks a lot to Yasi for this guest article! If you want to learn more about her, she is blogging and podcasting at Fast Track. She is interviewing successful entrepreneurs and investors to learn from their success and blogging about personal finance! She even interviewed me! You should check it out!

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Baptiste Wicht started in 2017. He realized that he was falling into the trap of lifestyle inflation. He decided to cut his expenses and increase his income. This blog is relating his story and findings. In 2019, he is saving more than 50% of his income. He made it a goal to reach Financial Independence. You can send Mr. The Poor Swiss a message here.

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10 thoughts on “How to manage your finances as a couple?”

  1. Mr. Poor Swiss, regarding IBKR, do you have a joint account with your wife or individual? I have been thinking of making it joint with my wife (we already split everything, it is just to make sure her name is in the IBKR account as well as we never know the future). I am have been thinking of doing the transition from individual to joint, but not so sure about tax implications or anything like that…

    1. Hi LucaC,

      I currently have an individual account but plan on switching to a joint account soon.
      If you are married, there should be not tax implications at all or no implications whatsoever I think. The advantage is easier access to the account by your wife, which is what I want to do as well.

  2. Thanks for the article. I agree it is important to discuss money in a relationship. I will have to do so soon, when my partner and I will move in together. Any tips on shared bank accounts? We will probably want to have a joint household bank account, and I wanted to go with neon but they don’t offer such an account at the moment. Would be great to read one of your reviews about joint accounts :) though of course any information is appreciated.

    1. Hi EarnestPear,

      That’s a good question and that’s something I am thinking of right now :)
      A joint account is definitely easier than two accounts.
      For now, I am considering creating a joint account at Migros Bank. But I am getting increasingly annoyed with their horrible apps. I really wish Neon had a joint account, I would not hesitate to create one.
      If I do more research, I will try to make an article about it.

  3. I like the model that you say matches your culture the best, everything belongs to the family. Even when I gained a large inheritance from my family it immediately went into my wife’s name as well as mine because I don’t believe that I can own something by myself, we are one team. When either of us wants to buy something discretionary for more than fifty dollars we tell the other first. Neither of us ever objects but it has kept me from buying silly things because I hated to know I’d have to try to explain it to her first!

    1. Hi steveark,

      I also like the model of everything belonging to the family and not to one individual.
      I really like your strategy of communicating only if it is higher than 50 bucks. I should do that as well, probably around 100 CHF.

      Thanks for sharing :)

      1. I like that idea too. I think by doing so, your partner can help you to rationalize the purchase if she or he finds it not necessary. Sometimes we want to buy things out of impulse without even realizing it.

  4. It was such an honor to feature my blog on your site, Mr. Poor Swiss. I am looking forward to publishing yours on my website in a few weeks’ time. It is important to have money talks, with your friends, families, and friends. However, we often shy away from this topic. I hope this article can help some couples to evaluate their financial model and build a solid financial future together.

    1. Hi Yasi,

      It was great to have you on for this article :)
      This is something I should have talked about before because it’s an important subject and you did a nice job at tackling it for me!

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